When you think about the word mother and what it means, what comes to mind? Words like love, caring, nurturing, acceptance, etc. Right? Well, at least this is what people “expect” to come to mind when the word mother is said.
Maybe this isn’t the case for everyone, and what comes to mind the word “mother” means hate, abandonment, criticism, unhappy, uncaring, cold, etc. Despite our expectations of what a mother should be, our reality is our reality.
Whether you are dealing with negative relationship issues with your mother from the past or present, you may have made poor choices in life due to your desire to experience the aspect of your mother’s love that you did not receive. Mother Hunger.
You make seek these feelings of satisfaction in other relationships, food, shopping, gambling, etc. But there will be no true satisfaction until you have truly healed from your broken relationship with your mother. You are not alone and help is here!
Join us on July 28 at 11 for a mini workshop where we’ll be helping women deal with past or present relationship issues with their moms.
Most women are not authentic as they claim to be or want to be. Standing alone and truly being yourself as a person is not always easy. I remember as a young girl and young adult, I had to make some tough choices to be my authentic self in life. Unfortunately, losing close friends, not being invited places, being talked about behind my back were some of the repercussions of me choosing ME!
Because, isn’t that what we’re doing when we choose to authentic–choosing US over THEM. Whoever that “them” is–family, friends, co-workers, mom-friend, neighbors, etc. It’s deciding that you’re not going to be fake just to please someone else, make them feel comfortable or downgrade yourself. It’s deciding that you’re worth it, you deserve it and you’re enough!
Focus on yourself and always be true to yourself no matter what. There will be seasons where relationships will be purged, purposes & passions realigned that will make you feel uncomfortable or unsure of your path. Stay the course and keep pushing toward your goals & dreams in life because those who truly resonate with your authenticity will find you!
It’s summer time and while everyone is chillin’ and relaxing we’re getting things together for H.O.T.M.O.M.S 2018! We’re making sure that this year’s experience is like none other. With the inspiring messages, engaging breakouts and a dynamic Hotmoms panel discussion, you will have a great time! Check out the video to see how we do it at H.O.T.M.O.M.S! https://youtu.be/c559Zcopt1k
May is mental health awareness month and I want to talk to you about the importance of taking care of yourselves. If you’re a busy mother you are no stranger to the busy schedules, hectic driving routines and chaotic evenings that may occur from time to time. Being a mother you’re probably also used to making sure everyone else is happy, healthy and taken care of. This week I want you to make sure that you are doing something to take care of yourself to make sure YOU’RE happy & healthy!
It is so easy to get consumed with caring for others and lose sight of our own self care. Did you know that 1 in 5 adults will experience a mental health disorder? That basically means that you know someone right now who are having some mental health challenges or are diagnosed with a mental illness. Do you know who they are? Is it you and did you tell anyone?
I know having a mental health challenge is private and can be embarrassing and isolating but there are people who want to help those in need. No one should have to suffer alone without the support they need.
I want to encourage you to engage in regular self care often. It can be simple things like going for a brisk walk, listening to music, relaxing with a book, getting a facial, etc. But if you believe that you are dealing with some more serious emotional or mental health challenges, its OK to seek professional help just like when you go to the doctor for a cold or annual check up. Make sure you’re having a regular mental health check up and check up on those you know who are living with a mental illness because they need your support and love!
Next week I’ll be doing some LIVE discussions on my Facebook page about the challenges of dealing with a person with mental illness. Join me on Wednesday at 12noon here: www.Facebook.com/renaissancecoaching
This is my first blog of the year!! I’m a little late in the year with my blogging but better now than never. I’ve been really laser focused on writing my new book that will be released very soon and being still in order to really get in tune with my purpose and path.
In 2018, I’m really going in overdrive with my motherhood empowerment movement and you’ll see lots of blogging and vlogging related to mommy topics. Hopefully you’ll enjoy my inspirational posts that I’ll be sharing via Instagram. My goal is to create a safe community of and for mothers where you can talk, listen and share your heart about the ups and downs of motherhood. So stay tuned and in touch by following my blog!
Today, I want you to know that you are good enough for your children. I remember as a new mom I didn’t always think that I was good enough for my children and didn’t know how to take care of them without ruining them. Lots of this was just fear and stinking thinking from my own childhood experiences. But I didn’t allow negative self talk to push me into a darker corner where I really would be no good for my children. Instead, I sought out resources, supportive people and built my confidence as a woman which influenced my confidence as a mother. I also realized that everything wasn’t going to be perfect and that my children loved me and I loved them and I was good enough for them! Speak positive and Silence the negative!
As we begin a new year in 2018, I know lots of us have sat down to write our goals and have attended vision boards parties, etc. But I wonder if when you were planning your goals and creating your vision board, did you include your kids or help them write their goals for the upcoming year? As hotmoms, we have to help align our kids for success just as we do for ourselves. We must have a vision for our family that also correlates with our personal goals.
What are your values? What do your kids want to accomplish in their life? How are you helping them visualize their future? Helping your children establish goals for their lives is just as important as setting goals for yourself each year. As 2017 came to an end I began to think about if my year was successful and if I accomplished what I intended to throughout the year….I look at my goal list and begin to look down the list and evaluate what I can check off and what’s left to achieve. I also look at my sons’ goal list or vision board and see what progress they made and begin to ask them what they would like to improve in their life.
The other week, I had my 2017 goal list on my desk and my husband asked me when did I write it. At the end of 2016 I replied, “why?” We both glanced over the list and he asked because there were so many goals on my list that I’d accomplished and he was impressed. However, there were many that I didn’t which was cool because I judge the success of my year by not just how many goals I can check off my list but also what progress have I made towards my overall purpose in life! Focusing on my purpose helps motivate me and drive me towards accomplishing goals that I set for myself and my business.
My goal list helps me focus on creating my vision boards (yes, I said boards) for the year. There are so many industries that use collages, design boards, vision boards, etc. when they are working on projects, new business ventures, etc. So, when we create vision boards for our life, it’s like creating a design board with all of the positive affirmations, goals, places, things, people, etc. that we visualize for our life and business for the upcoming year. I create a vision board for my Hotmoms Conference each year because not only does it help me focus on what I want to accomplish with this conference but it also keeps me accountable to my purpose and vision.
How do you create a vision board? When you join us on February 3, 2018 at 11am-2pm you’ll learn the importance of vision boarding, how to create an awesome vision board and how to go beyond the vision board and see your vision come to life just like you desired. I am a believer in vision boarding and believe it is a great way to have a tangible visual tool to accomplishing your goals and achieving your dreams.
I hope you had a wonderful holiday and have your goals written down and ready to make some big things happen in 2018! For the past 4 weeks, I’ve spent some quality time with my young nephews and my mother. It’s been a long time since I’ve had little people in my house for an extended period of time and they have surely kept me on my toes :)! They have been a blast and I’m so blessed to have been able to spend this quality time with them! But in the midst of entertaining, preparing lunches and wiping running noses, I remembered that I still had to make time to sit down and focus on my goals for 2018!!
Having my nephews with me reminded me of the times when I was a new entrepreneur and business owner trying to figure how to get everything done and be perfect at all of it. Luckily, I am a different person now and haven’t ran around like a chicken with my head cut off trying to have all of the laundry done, no dishes in the sink, breakfast/lunch/dinner on deck at precisely the same time, make everyone happy, reading books instead of video games and movies—I have mastered the concept of not thinking that I am or have to be the “perfect mom”. I can’t describe the feeling I get when I can comfortably walk out of the front door sometimes with household chores incomplete because I know that I can finish this task at another time. Learning to manage your life as a mother has nothing to do with being perfect, nothing to do with “balance” but everything to do with prioritizing your life according to what’s best for you and your family and figuring out how to make that happen on your terms without succumbing to mommy guilt and societal pressures.
This year, I am so excited to be launching my new moms-only club, The Hotmoms Life Club. This club was created so that moms no longer have to feel that they have to choose between being a mother or living their dreams. You’ll be surrounded by a group of mothers who support mothers on their journey to being their best them NOW not LATER!! Visit our updated website www.hatsofftomothers.com to find out more information about The Hotmoms Life Club and see how you can join our motherhood movement!!
We are also having our inaugural Success Vision Board Party on Feb. 3, 2018 to celebrate our successes and complete vision boards to stay focused on our goals in 2018! You can register online for the event at www.hatsofftomothers.com.
It’s that time of year where we get so excited about all of the parties, the decorations, the family visiting from out of town and of course the shopping! But sometimes the holidays can really do a number on us in terms of major emotional and physical burnout as we try our hardest as moms to make it to every party, buy gifts for everyone and to make the holidays memorable for all of those around us. Yes, as mom we have our children whom we want to brag about their memories during the holidays to their children and their grandchildren but at what cost. Do we really have to make sure that everything is perfect down to the little decorated bush in the front yard? I know some of you will answer yes to this question and then some of you will stop and say…what am I really doing? I love the holidays but I learned that we spend days and months preparing for one day with shopping, cooking, decorating, wrapping gifts, entertaining guests and sometimes we forget about the most important thing about the holidays and that’s actually spending time with your family. Sure, you’ll say….but I am spending time with my family every time I drag my kids, kicking and screaming, to yet another Christmas party or family get together. How about you do a few things differently this year that will help you have a piece of mind and actually create an opportunity for you to enjoy the holidays a little more.
Say no to some parties and get togethers this year….you don’t have to attend every single one. Just Say NO!!
Do some of your shopping either online or when the kids are not home or during a time when they are not hungry or sleepy.
Re-evaluate your family traditions or actually create some this year that’s just relevant to your immediate family where you focus on your needs.
Spend some actual time with your family–kids, spouse, etc. enjoying one another and doing something fun and bond-building. This type of quality time is what they’ll remember and share with their children and grandchildren.
I hope your holiday is filled with blessings and joy throughout the New Year and I hope you use some of these easy tips to help you have a less stressful holiday season!